She deserved to be loved in the way that she needs.
She deserves the fun that she is having right now!
But most of all. She deserves to claim her brightest future.
I have a client (friend) who is absolutely just crushing life right now! She’s on a dating app and having the best time of her life. When we talk, it takes so much of my mental energy to keep all her dates straight.
Her story is like so many I have heard before. Sole financial, emotional, educational, and spiritual supporter to all around her. Her children, mother, brothers, staff, and students. She works in a high-powered executive position and as a college professor at night to keep all the plates spinning. She went through hell with her ex-husband, who didn’t hold a job, drank, used drugs, and was not a healthy “help mate” (old family term) and still lingers around for support.
But now! Holy guacamole, she has a huge spring in her step. A broad smile on her face and in joy! On multiple dating apps, keeping her heart open while figuring out what SHE wants! I believe, there is a right of passage after trauma, loss, and abuse that a moment just occurs and something just clicks, the pain subsides and YOU ARE READY. (You might not know that you know you’re ready but then BAM! There you go!)
The pearls of wisdom that we are curious about during our sessions and might resonate with you (insert your situation for “dating”). Dating is about you, learning about your needs, and when and if you’re dating and feel hurt or some part of you gets triggered, curiosity is the way through to healing. Learning how to remain true to your unique needs while keeping your heart softly open and loving is powerful.
Dolly Parton’s words of wisdom say it all about Absolutely Crushing LIfe! Staying open to experiencing it all whatever the feelings are! “I have to not harden my heart because I want to stay open to feel things. So when I hurt, I hurt all over. And when I cry, I cry real hard. And when I’m mad, I’m mad all over. I’m just a person; I like to experience whatever the feeling is and whatever I’m going through.” – Dolly Parton
Journal Prompt: How’s your heart? Opened or Hardened? Remember a time when you felt like you were absolutely crushing it? What did it feel like? How was your heart then? Write it out and feel it all! (Go back three days from writing down your heart-opening story and re-read it… how do you feel on day 3? Is your heart open today?)
Affirmation: I stay open to feeling all of my life!
Tender Loving Care of Your Heart will keep it open!