Guest Blog by Tracey Gradey
After a long struggle with infertility, you may be ready to consider adoption. Here’s what to do first.
Talk with women who have recently adopted. If possible talk with families that have adopted both internationally and domestically. They will educate you on the adoption process (home study, waiting & selection, placement, post placement & finalization) and most likely calm many of your fears. Ask lots of questions and be honest with yourself. It’s okay to have doubts at the beginning of this process.
Next attend “Intro to Adoption” seminars/workshops in your area. Many organizations like The Adoption Community of New England offers support and education programs throughout the year.
Consider meeting with a lawyer that represents prospective adoptive families. These lawyers can share knowledge on birth mothers, waiting times, fee structures and federal and state adoption laws. They can also be instrumental in helping you decide which agency/placement firm to use based on your needs and concerns.
If you are still not sure, enlist the help of a licensed social worker that specializes in adoption. These professionals can help you sort through the many fears and emotions that come along with the journey to adopt.
Tracey Gradey
Tracey Grady resides in Massachusetts with her husband, Michael and two daughters. Tracey struggled with infertility and recurrent miscarriages before adopting a baby through Domestic Adoption in 2004. While waiting to adopt a second time, Tracey became pregnant and went on to give birth to a healthy, baby girl.
(originally published on May 1, 2014)
