My Response to "Selling the Fantasy of Fertility"

I just read the New York Times opinion piece about “Selling the Fantasy of Fertility” written by Pamela Tsigdonis and Miriam Zoll and my keyboard is smoking!!! I feel the need to voice my opinion.

All I can say is WOW!

I wholeheartedly agree with the two authors that “being unable to bear children is a painful burden to carry,” but I don’t agree with the authors about lumping all of us within the “fertility industry” into the same category and judging us as uncaring or non-compassionate.

Fertility challenges are heartbreaking, life altering and just plain ugly.

I am an advocate of “fertility challenges” being an inside job because this life circumstance brings to light the gaping wound of worthiness.

We are worthy of our own choices and determining what is correct for us at each given moment. We are all doing the best we can within the confines of our life.

Our heart, mind and soul all are part of reproduction just as science, aka the body. The soul’s journey is personal to each and every one of us.

You must move through the self-imposed victim role when you decide to create your family differently than the way you probably imagined.

I lost myself to my personal fertility challenges. The experience changed, shifted and altered me while it also made me stronger and more devoted to helping others move through this heartbreak to land in an inner place of peace. There is peace in knowing you are enough and have done all that you need and are loved beyond measure.

Losing my first baby, through a horrific ectopic pregnancy achieved after treatment, sent me into victimizing the fertility world. I became unrecognizable to myself and then, snap, something divine took over; I made an agreement with God to help other women avoid this pain, if possible, and help shepherd them to the other side of the emotional trauma.

My intent is to do this without judgment of self or others! Let’s come together and heal our pain, bring it to light and be together in unity. Let’s be together with the intent of healing and sharing knowing that we are not alone on this journey.

I am the part of the fertility industry and my intention is to be of service to others! There is power in hope and faith and I am glad to be on the side of hope.

 

(Originally Published September 12, 2013)