When was the last time you were good to yourself? I mean, when you woke up and thought: “Hmmm… What do I need today? What do I want to do today?” When was the last time you said “Me first,” and didn’t consider what you should, would, or could do, but what you wanted to do for yourself?
Being good to yourself is creating a habit that becomes a practice, a philosophy of being.
Maya Angelou’s quote explains this concept perfectly: “If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?” The energy of giving to others and not to oneself creates a vacuum in the flow of conscience and unconscious energy patterns, both internal and external. This creates an unbalance.
The month of February is known as the month of romance, which perhaps makes you immediately think of sharing yourself with another person through romantic love.
So often we women frantically try to make things come together to flow perfectly while forfeiting our needs to the needs of others. It is the erosion of our needs, without an internal connection to self-love, that creates a sense of being half filled rather than feeling your cup runneth over.
It is foreign for women to think about themselves first. We are the nurturers and the home keepers not in the “housewives” sense but in being the creators of the home sacred space and the providers of a sense of familial connection. We are hard wired to think about the whole unit and not just our singular being.
Ahh, but then comes the fertility speed bump. The natural progression to motherhood is abruptly stopped or altered. The flow is clogged and blocked, creating stress in the homeland and in yourself. So who you are? Reaching your heart desires might feel elusive.
Here’s what I have come to believe: You must hold and create the internal sense that you are fully supported and loved on this green earth and beyond. This takes the sting out of life’s challenges even if currently the future looks a certain way. You are no more disconnected from the birth right of creation then you are disconnected from the oxygen you breathe.
WOW! That is a mouthful to swallow, but it will resonate on some level and bring deep peace in knowing that you’re really ok and there is a great abundance of all things for everyone and peace, love, creation for all.
Recently I was speaking at the RESOLVE of New England annual conference. In the middle of my presentation I said, “This is not about the baby!” Immediately, one of the attendees tweeted that line out into the universe through waves of energy.
It is not about the baby! It is all about you and anchoring yourself . It’s about believing that you are a powerful, peaceful and magnificent being of the universe who has the ability to create what you want! Yes, what you want. Are you ready?
So in this month of love, I beg you to love yourself first. Fill yourself up first. Embrace yourself, your body, your smile, your gifts, and your being. There is only one of you blessing this planet and all of us needs you.
Let’s talk again about Maya Angelou…. She says “I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.”
Life can be challenging, so you need to take action by going out and knowing where you want to go and what you’re going for!! Your pure intention of heart will do the “kick ass” part without any effort!
So get your game on, put on some red lipstick or high heels and be good to yourself first. Then create!!!
Love and blessings to you.
(Originally Published February 20, 2012)